Closer
Wednesday, April 18, 2007 Edit This 5 Comments »
I've got some weird family dynamics going on (as we all do), but it's funny, as close as I feel to my family, I soon came to realize that we ain't really that close. I came to this conclusion after my life-coach (ok, my therapist. who am I fooling?) asked me a bunch of questions about my family that I couldn't answer.
These questions have led me on a quest to find out about the personality traits and characteristics of my ancestors as well as learn more about those who are still alive. I think knowing this information will help me to understand me better. I don't want to place any blame for any of my issues (ok, maybe) but it would be nice to know the people who make up this dynamic called family.
I had some great dialogue with my mama last night where I asked her some very personal questions about some of her life's experiences and she was open. I felt a little uncomfortable asking her initially but it was all good.. Surprisingly, but not really, she attributed her overcoming a great deal of mess to God and angels watching over her. That was nice to hear. She said that "God watches over his children and fools" I thought that was funny....
Today, as part of the homework I was supposed to do (for my session tonight) I am going to have a conversation with my brother about his perspective on growing up in our house, as it relates to discipline, dealing with emotions and other things.... It was a bit weird approaching him as well because we've never talked about stuff like this. Even if these conversations with family members bring up some stuff that may be difficult to deal with I do hope in the end it will bring us all a little closer.
These questions have led me on a quest to find out about the personality traits and characteristics of my ancestors as well as learn more about those who are still alive. I think knowing this information will help me to understand me better. I don't want to place any blame for any of my issues (ok, maybe) but it would be nice to know the people who make up this dynamic called family.
I had some great dialogue with my mama last night where I asked her some very personal questions about some of her life's experiences and she was open. I felt a little uncomfortable asking her initially but it was all good.. Surprisingly, but not really, she attributed her overcoming a great deal of mess to God and angels watching over her. That was nice to hear. She said that "God watches over his children and fools" I thought that was funny....
Today, as part of the homework I was supposed to do (for my session tonight) I am going to have a conversation with my brother about his perspective on growing up in our house, as it relates to discipline, dealing with emotions and other things.... It was a bit weird approaching him as well because we've never talked about stuff like this. Even if these conversations with family members bring up some stuff that may be difficult to deal with I do hope in the end it will bring us all a little closer.
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I stand with you, sister, as you make that oft times tough journey to hear the experiences and feelings of family members, particularly close ones. I grew up with a brother, too, and a mom. Sometimes my mother is less open than I'd like her to be, and that's tough on me sometimes, but I've learned to deal. I'm so pleased that your mom is being open, and even if these conversations are tough, I think they are therapeutic and can aid in closer family bonds. Hang in there!
Peace,
Michele
thanks for the encouragement sis and thanks for stopping by... I miss my friend... i pray that hubby and the little ones are doing wonderful! oh, can you send me the family blog link again, for some reason i cannot locate it.
Ahhh, family issues - I am finding out that even 'close' families (which I always thought mine was) have some deep issues to deal with. It's hard (emotionally) to bring some of these up, but so worth it when you dig deep and finally start to talk about things from the past. At least I'm finding it is - and in learning about my family's past I'm feeling so much more confident about my (and my husband/kids) future.
Anyway, enough with the lengthy comment - been a while since I've said hi...so 'HI SANDY!' :) Hope all is going well in your corner of the world.
Blessings!
Faraja
Oh the blessing of family.....thanks for taking the time to stop thru gurlfriend! :)
Sandy,
I sent you the link to my family blog via email. Did you get it? If not, it's baysuitehome.blogspot.com.. I miss you, too, dear one! I hope to get a post up for each blog sometime soon.
Love,
Michele
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