Correct Me if I'm Wrong
Friday, July 27, 2007 Edit This 2 Comments »
Correct me if I'm wrong but......I am under the impression that if I were to offend someone and they let me know that I did, regardless if I feel like I did anything wrong, it's appropriate for me to apologize to them.
Is that wrong? and is it wrong for me to expect the same in return?
Recently, I told a couple of co-workers that I was offended by an email that they sent (and typically I don't say anything, I just sit, pout, and perhaps hate you secretly.. ok, hate is such a strong word but for me to say anything is a victory for me) When I confronted them, I did start by saying that I wasn't sure if they intended to offend me but that I did take what they said negatively. (email tone is sooooo hard to read)
All I got was a blatant disregard for how I felt (oh don't feel that way, and it wasn't like that) They didn't say I'm sorry you felt that way or nothing and that made me more angry.
One of them apologized the next day but the other did not. She brought it up the other day when we were hashing out our differences over lunch and I let her know that it hurt me even more that she didn't apologize but rather shrugged off how I felt. She said " I didn't do anything wrong." I thought that was pretty wack.
Anyway, I reckon I need to let it go and I will continue extending the courtesy of an apology, If I've wronged someone inadvertently or not. So you don't have to correct me if you think I'm wrong I'll do what I feel is the right thing and not worry about anyone else..... right? right!
Anyway, have a great weekend!
Sandi-love :)
Is that wrong? and is it wrong for me to expect the same in return?
Recently, I told a couple of co-workers that I was offended by an email that they sent (and typically I don't say anything, I just sit, pout, and perhaps hate you secretly.. ok, hate is such a strong word but for me to say anything is a victory for me) When I confronted them, I did start by saying that I wasn't sure if they intended to offend me but that I did take what they said negatively. (email tone is sooooo hard to read)
All I got was a blatant disregard for how I felt (oh don't feel that way, and it wasn't like that) They didn't say I'm sorry you felt that way or nothing and that made me more angry.
One of them apologized the next day but the other did not. She brought it up the other day when we were hashing out our differences over lunch and I let her know that it hurt me even more that she didn't apologize but rather shrugged off how I felt. She said " I didn't do anything wrong." I thought that was pretty wack.
Anyway, I reckon I need to let it go and I will continue extending the courtesy of an apology, If I've wronged someone inadvertently or not. So you don't have to correct me if you think I'm wrong I'll do what I feel is the right thing and not worry about anyone else..... right? right!
Anyway, have a great weekend!
Sandi-love :)
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Can I just say that you acted maturely and the other individuals did not. Period. It's downright rude, unthoughtful and plain old inconsiderate not to apologize when someone has approached you in a mature and (hopefully) tactful way. I'm glad I stopped by your blog, because I've dealt with the same thing today from a family member, and it's hurtful. It comes down to pride, I think, Sandy. People don't feel like they need to 'stoop' to the level of an apology and, instead of empathizing and considering how they might feel if the tables were turned, they think of themselves as in the right and don't think they owe you a thing. I'm glad that the one came and apologized to you the next day, but I can still see why you'd be upset. You've every right to be. But that being said, we've got to let it go and forgive them (and girl, I am SO preachin' to myself here!) even if they are not deserving of it. Because God, in Christ, forgave us. Hard though it may be, we gotta love 'em (even if we don't like them). I feel you on this issue, though. You are not alone!
Love,
Michele,
Hey Michele
so glad that I am not alone on this one. we can work thru this forgiveness thing together, realizing that not everyone will see eye to eye on issues.... the hard part is gonna be not doing the same in return when and if a situation were to arise (do not repay evil for evil)
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