Setting Boundaries
Tuesday, September 23, 2008 Edit This 2 Comments »
I'm at a point again on my journey where I need to take a look at boundaries. How far I've come as it relates to setting them and sticking to them and how far I need to go. I feel like I've been doing a decent job at being available when I can be and saying no when it's appropriate, but as of late, I see myself slipping and I won't have that!
It's funny. I feel like I am either one extreme or the other. Either I am doing doing doing for others, or I am so tired of doing that I say no to everything. I guess the part that really bothers me is when certain persons try to make me feel obligated to do things for them. That's wack, point blank! But, its that guilt that makes me give in and then I get angry with myself.
I'm seeking to find balance because I really don't want to say no if its something I can and want to do. Even though sometimes it's necessary to do so for practice. With that said, this week I am going to practice saying no (again) and not give excuses like I so often do. I have to remind myself that I really don't owe anyone an excuse. It's my choice.
With that said, next week (since this one is gonna be sooo very busy) I am going to focus on doing things for me. Why not.
It's funny. I feel like I am either one extreme or the other. Either I am doing doing doing for others, or I am so tired of doing that I say no to everything. I guess the part that really bothers me is when certain persons try to make me feel obligated to do things for them. That's wack, point blank! But, its that guilt that makes me give in and then I get angry with myself.
I'm seeking to find balance because I really don't want to say no if its something I can and want to do. Even though sometimes it's necessary to do so for practice. With that said, this week I am going to practice saying no (again) and not give excuses like I so often do. I have to remind myself that I really don't owe anyone an excuse. It's my choice.
With that said, next week (since this one is gonna be sooo very busy) I am going to focus on doing things for me. Why not.
2 What's on Your Write Mind?:
Yes, boundaries...oh so hard to set sometimes! Learning to say 'no' is healthy and so necessary at times, otherwise we become overwhelmed with the things we've committed ourselves to. I like to keep my commitments minimal...there are some VERY good things that sometimes we just have to say no to. Here's hoping setting boundaries enriches your life greatly!
Love,
Michele
tell me about it. i just get so angry with myself when I feel like i've been duped! :)
miss ya sis! hope you are doing good....
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