Processing

Friday, October 10, 2008 Edit This 4 Comments »

There are quite a few people these days that I know who have lost a love one or someone close to them. I too, just this past week, lost a near and dear friend who at the tender age of 39 and who had accomplished so much in her life was gone in the twinkling of an eye (literally!)

Life is so precious but what's even more interesting to me is the way people process death. I attended my friend Beth's memorial service yesterday morning and I found that people displayed an array of emotions. I started to wonder if I was the only one there who was actually filled with a little bit of joy to some extent, which of course made me question myself. I was thinking as two friends sat on the side of me weeping, should I be crying right now? ( although I shed my fair share of tears a few days this week). People were in somewhat somber moods and when asked how I was doing, I would answer with what may have appeared like a perky, I'm doing ok which then made me think to myself, should I sound more down? Then I had come the realize that how I feel is how I feel and it's ok. It is how I am processing it all

I miss my friend, don't get me wrong and I haven't stopped thinking about her, but there was something about seeing her on the cover of her obituary that made me smile on the inside and out. Something that made me feel at peace with the fact that she is now with the Lord and something that made me a bit honored to have been her friend.

She, was quite the humble one for someone who had accomplished so much in her life so that left everyone who loved her to often brag about her to others. After all who else had a friend who was a Ph.D in Astronomy?

Anyway, I'm headed out to her actual funeral tomorrow down in the county, I'm going with a few friends so ya'll keep her family and friends in prayer because while some may be at peace, having to deal with the death of a loved especially someone so young and so sudden is never easy.

With that said, have a great weekend! Enjoy some of this beautiful fall weather!

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Sophistakated Shelly said...

I definitely understand why you would question your emotions. Everyone takes death differently. I think you're happy at the fact that you got a chance to meet such a wonderful person who clearly has touched many. And you do know that she is in a better place.

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs said...

Hey Sistah!

The bible talks about how God rejoices at the death of one of his saints ....I think you have the right perspective...you love and miss her...but realize she is in a better place...she is with the Lord! Grief is different for anyone so grieve as you need to without comparision or judgment my sistah!

Again, I am so sorry for your lost...Peace & blessings

Sandy said...

thx for the encouragment sista's. I will truly miss her....

M. Akamau said...

Sandy,
I'm sooo sorry for the loss of your friend. I know that must be SO difficult. Yet, there is joy when, as you say, you know she is with the Lord. I can understand the grief side, and I can understand the joy side; like you said, we all process our grief differently. I think a lot of the time, we weep for ourselves, because we don't have our loved one any longer. I trust your time with your friends will enrich this trip. Keep us posted on all of it. Praying for you, dear one.

Grace...